Playing Parents


Meet Harper Josephine Forbes!  Born January 21, 2015 she was 9 lbs, 3 oz and 21 3/4 inches tall.  Whew, what a big baby!  For those of you who are a little less familiar with new baby sizes (like we were just a few months ago) average babies are about 7 lbs and 20 inches long.  She is already growing out of her 3 month clothes!  And now here is an incredibly long post all about her, and our new life, and what we’re planning with this blog of ours:

New baby

She definitely took her sweet time getting here.  She was 17 days past her original due date and clocked in almost 30 hours in the delivery room, but she finally made it and I have to say that it was love at first sight.

Harper and Jamie

I had a few complications after delivery – a high fever that they’re still not sure what the cause was so we ended up being in the hospital for a full week.  I’ve never loved my bed and my shower so much.

Harper Opera Singer

So we’ve had 7 whole weeks to get used to this parenting thing.  To tell the truth, we still feel like we’re playing house with this adorable and terrifyingly dependent baby doll.  We still constantly ask each other “Can you believe she’s ours?” I don’t know for sure when it will feel like we’re parents but I’m sure we’ll eventually come to terms with it.  In the meantime we’ll just keep enjoying this strange dream.

Harper and Jamie 2

Having a newborn around is not exactly like I thought it would be.  I envisioned a baby that sleeps whenever she’s not eating and crying just about all the time.  So far, she doesn’t cry much (knock on wood!).  She fusses and makes sure you know she’s not happy but really any crying is pretty short-lived.  Even when she first arrived, she scored low on the apgar test partly because she wasn’t making enough noise.  She is also awake much more than I expected meaning that all the plans I had for major projects during maternity leave never got done.  I had plans for drapes and baby clothes and a quilt etc. but I’m still trying to get the drapes done!

So how has life changed?  Diapers.  Talk about major life event, I had no idea how many diapers she would go through.  You hear people say oh, they go through 12 or more diapers a day and you think oh that’s a lot.  No, that’s not a lot, that is time-consuming.  Especially with the cloth diapers, but we’ll get into that in another post.

Harper and daddy

Sleeping is the other major difference.  She is actually pretty awesome and is “sleeping through the night” which just means she sleeps for 5 hours at a time.  So my schedule is something like:

8:00 bath
9:00 feeding
9:30 Harper sleeps, we get ready for tomorrow
11:00 Jamie sleeps
2:00-3:00 Harper eats, get her to sleep
5:30 Wake up for work

Honestly, though, after the hospital and having nurses, doctors, lactation specialists, house keeping, and people dropping off food, in and out changing IVs and checking temperature, introducing new shifts etc, I am so grateful for more than an hour sleep in a row.

Harper Rainy Day

Life is completely different, and yes there are some negatives like lack of sleep and grocery shopping now takes about 3 hours, but then she grins at you and it really is worth it.  We’re excited for when her favorite activity is something other than staring at the ceiling fan, though.  It’s a pretty awesome fan, but we just don’t get the same joy out of it.

Harpers 1st Day

And now I’m back at work.  Harper had her first day of daycare last Thursday and they say she’s doing wonderful.  They leave little notes on her daily schedule like “Harper is a good sleeper” or “Harper likes to look in the mirror” or “Harper and Peter had face time today.” I’d rather snuggle with her but it is kind of nice that she’s meeting new kids.

Harper Big Smile

So what’s in store for the blog now that we aren’t spending nights and weekends on the house?  We’re not entirely sure, but we’re not giving it up.  We definitely don’t have time to whip through major renovations and, like the drapes, even small projects take a lot longer so we just don’t have as many things to post about.  For now, though, we’re planning to make the blog a little more family oriented, sharing things we’re up to and things we discover while parenting like using cloth diapers or figuring out this tummy time thing.  We’re still addicted to projects, so when we get one done we’ll post about that too.  So that’s the plan for now, but we’ll see how it goes!

Harper Blanket

FYI we’re planning to do a week by week photo shoot for the Little One.  You can find the first few weeks here!

Author: Jamie Forbes

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  • Hi and welcome Harper!
    (Great Name!)
    I’m totally feeling with you we had our little babygirl a few days after you and its the best Thing ever happend to us! I Never thought i’d love our new Job as parents that much!
    All the best for you and your little girl!
    I’ll come back for more cute photos and honest posts around your little Family. Looking fotward to that!
    XO, Katharina (&Linda)

  • Your blogs are great no matter what you’re talking about. But this one is fabulous. Love your little Harper.

  • Hi, I found this on Houseblogging. The title piqued my interest because I had my first born in 2013. You said it best – I thought I would too have a bit more time during the day, but my newborn was up a lot! I still remember struggling just to eat lunch, let alone make the bed, or take a shower. She slept so little. And she was up three times a night as well. I am also going kinda crazy imagining you being back at work so soon and leaving your newborn with a daycare! Our mat. leave here (in Canada) is one year, and even that is not enough! I never left my baby alone with anyone until she was about 5 months old. Really hope you can still get as much time in with her as possible!

    • Right? I’m still shocked how little I get done, though part of that is just that she’s so snuggly it is hard to convince myself to get up and go clean something. I’m feeling pretty jealous of you at the moment and am seriously considering moving to Canada. It has been pretty tough only having 6 weeks with Harper but I’m trying to make the most of it. I’m working 40 hours in 4 days so that I at least have Fridays with her. By the way, just checked out your blog and I love it!